Chapter 10 - Ladies Men?

I have been racking my brains for the whole Sunday. Well the tough that how Life have been so unfair in relationships really starts to kick into my brains recently.

I have come to a conclusion – Ladies Totally Pawns Men.

For starters, here are some of the crucial point that most ladies looks for in their future investment (Yes, We (guys) are their investment. 8 /10 thinks the same way – Please be frank with yourself)

1) Looks – well this is the nice start, first impression totally wins ½ of the battle. Giving a Plus when striking up a conversation. These add up to the first deadly advantage. I can’t really judge how handsome a guy could be, it all comes back to how the ladies judge the guys and what they look into to define the word “Handsome”. This point also applies to guys who determines “Beautiful"

Keywords that define Handsome – Macho, Cool, Yandao, Slim, Cute.

2) Money – In the Latest edition of “Cleo” they even listed Money as the Top Relationship Killer. Seriously I dun think anyone in a sane mind would marry or find a broke as a future partner. I mean we all know this, every lady always hope for a fairytale life, living as a princess, dreaming about this since childhood and to pursue this dream, the best way is to hope to find someone with $$ in the pockets.

This one point is a major headache – I was thinking, how much is enough? Or would it be the more the merrier or who has more wins.

Here are some rough statistics – 100% $-0% looks or 70% $-30% looks or 50% $-0% looks.

I wont believe that there would be a decent looking girl in sane mind would marry a guy who has no savings, wanders around aimlessly, without a proper job. Please if possible, kindly prove me wrong.

3) Car – This play a major part during dating, or almost all the gals I know the the feedback given to me by friends, it seems that most ladies likes to be driven around. Be it that to cater them from the house to work or dating and vice versus. One point is that if you own a car, the mentally thinking is that 1) he come from a rich ass family 2) he is at least 50% rich to be able to manage owning a “ka”. This is definitely a bonus point. Guys, if u are looking for a good catch, having a car would be the best starting point.

4) House – At some point during a relationship, there will always be this topic – House.
Do you own a house? Or can you afford a house? Or even better, are his parents transferring their house to you? Couples especially ladies always look for privacy and their would try their very best to avoid staying together with the in-law. Its like either you get a house or we are never gonna get married.



For Years, guys have always been expected to produce results from their partners. But thinking of the other way round, How deep many of the couples were really deeply in love to defy the point which I have mentioned above. With guys working hard to provide the required results to the ladies but in return what can the opposite sex provide? Provide more stress, more pressure? Or verbal encouragement to work harder.
Most of the time, people would even forget that there were words like “Going Dutch”. I ask some of my friend; it was like, “Huh? What is that suppose to mean?” Also, opposite sex are losing interests in looking out for partners with talents. Even yes – talent only contributes to less then 15% in deciding a long-term relationship.

We have also seen from TV, Movie, read from newpapers and Mag about the constant nagging from the spouse to the point that the husband snaps and finally started abusing the wifes or girlfriends. I am not encouraging the rights to abuse but we have to come to a conclusion as to how much more is more and how much is enough so as to ease the stress and burden.

We have also seen spouse stray away from their partners in 2 different senarieos -
1) husband/ boyfried losing interest in wife / girlfriend due to constant negative verbal torture.
2) Wife / girlfried strays off due to husband/ boyfriend working hard to provide a better future thus having little time to accompany them after a hard days work.

A friend also mention to me that things like this have to be solve by having more mutual understanding and working it out , whining & nagging between each other wont salvage de situation mah(tys mich!)


Yup, What i have mentioned might not be perfectly correct and true to the point of judging a person love life, but -

Long gone were the romance of Romeo and Juliet especially in a country like Singapore. It is almost impossiable to find anyone willing to share weal and woes.
Money is your most secure partner. If not, Prove me wrong